The Ten Commandments of Coaching

I get accused of making pronouncements a lot, but I’m okay with that, because the accusation is so often followed by a plaintive sigh, quickly followed by ‘if I had only done what you said…’ Then I get told a sad, and thoroughly unnecessary, tale of miscommunication, misdirection, and just plain misery. That’s the frustrating […]

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I Love You Just the Way You Are

Every so often someone tells me they want to ‘confront’ their ‘shortcomings’ and then ‘make strategic changes.’ Sounds sweet, so why am I cringing? For one, it’s almost always after someone has told them they need to change because they don’t fit in. It’s usually their manager of some sort, but occasionally it’s someone more […]

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The End is Coming

Of the year, that is, not the world. I usually don’t think about my New Year’s resolutions until at least the 30th of December, but I’ve got a couple of big goals for 2019, so I’m starting early. Since it’s easier to give advice than take it, I’m going to write this for you, too. […]

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Leading Into the Light

There is a famous old Peanuts cartoon. Linus, ever philosophical, quotes “It is better to light one candle rather than curse the darkness”, whereupon Lucy, ever the pessimist, says something like, “You stupid darkness!” Before you choose your favorite (and yes, one choice is more ‘socially desirable’) consider the advantages of being a Lucy. You […]

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