The Ten Commandments of Coaching

I get accused of making pronouncements a lot, but I’m okay with that, because the accusation is so often followed by a plaintive sigh, quickly followed by ‘if I had only done what you said…’ Then I get told a sad, and thoroughly unnecessary, tale of miscommunication, misdirection, and just plain misery. That’s the frustrating […]

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Investment Notes from Mom

Disclosure: I am not a qualified, or even semi-qualified, investment advisor. You can find them many other places than here. But I am a qualified mom. And note-taker. So these are just notes from my history of doing things with money that I’m passing on to my own kids. If your mom disagrees with me, […]

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You Can’t Change Change

Someone asked me today to write about managing change. I know it’s a popular topic but when he said it, it sounded so absurd to me. Manage change? The very nature of change is that it’s unpredictable. I think he was questioning how to manage your reaction to change: what you do when change happens, […]

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I Love You Just the Way You Are

Every so often someone tells me they want to ‘confront’ their ‘shortcomings’ and then ‘make strategic changes.’ Sounds sweet, so why am I cringing? For one, it’s almost always after someone has told them they need to change because they don’t fit in. It’s usually their manager of some sort, but occasionally it’s someone more […]

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Eulogy for Job Descriptions

Ok, not all of them. Just the ones that ask for characteristics that don’t co-exist in normal human beings. Many years ago, I spoke at a conference and got a great question. (This was rare at the time.) It was from from a man who hired sales people. He wanted to know if he really […]

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The End is Coming

Of the year, that is, not the world. I usually don’t think about my New Year’s resolutions until at least the 30th of December, but I’ve got a couple of big goals for 2019, so I’m starting early. Since it’s easier to give advice than take it, I’m going to write this for you, too. […]

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