I Love You Just the Way You Are

Every so often someone tells me they want to ‘confront’ their ‘shortcomings’ and then ‘make strategic changes.’ Sounds sweet, so why am I cringing? For one, it’s almost always after someone has told them they need to change because they don’t fit in. It’s usually their manager of some sort, but occasionally it’s someone more […]

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Leading Into the Light

There is a famous old Peanuts cartoon. Linus, ever philosophical, quotes “It is better to light one candle rather than curse the darkness”, whereupon Lucy, ever the pessimist, says something like, “You stupid darkness!” Before you choose your favorite (and yes, one choice is more ‘socially desirable’) consider the advantages of being a Lucy. You […]

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On Being a Republican Parent

Bear with me a moment here. I’d better leave a note for my (grownup) kids here, even though I’m pretty sure they don’t read this blog. Mom is still as left liberal as she always was and she still wishes we still had that last family still living in the White House. But sometimes, you […]

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Privacy, Data, Trust, and Love

The near-complete annihilation of privacy can be a terrible thing. But when it happens between two people, the result is an extraordinary reward called ‘falling in love.’ So why, then, are we seeing such an uproar about something that – under the right circumstances – we are so willing to surrender? Perhaps the current conversation […]

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Managing Love

There are five pillars of love. I’ve written about them before, although I didn’t call them that until I realized that these are universal and apply to every situation in life where you care for at least one other human being. Which, in my not-so-humble opinion includes the job of management. In brief, here they […]

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Funnels and Filters

“Why does he do that shit?” My caller, an old friend who has learned that I’ll try to answer any question, no matter how complicated, obscure, or expressed with strong emotion, was truly puzzled. When my immediate answer was, “There’s a lot of it going around,” I knew I had heard the same question (albeit, […]

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The Four Words You Need

I hope you neither misread nor misinterpreted the title here. One, this post is more than four words, and two, if you think it’s about four-letter words, this is probably the wrong blog for you. I’m talking about words you need to know. Not the ‘nice to know’ ones like adventitious and prolific, or the […]

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