The Ten Commandments of Coaching

I get accused of making pronouncements a lot, but I’m okay with that, because the accusation is so often followed by a plaintive sigh, quickly followed by ‘if I had only done what you said…’ Then I get told a sad, and thoroughly unnecessary, tale of miscommunication, misdirection, and just plain misery. That’s the frustrating […]

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You Can’t Change Change

Someone asked me today to write about managing change. I know it’s a popular topic but when he said it, it sounded so absurd to me. Manage change? The very nature of change is that it’s unpredictable. I think he was questioning how to manage your reaction to change: what you do when change happens, […]

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Eulogy for Job Descriptions

Ok, not all of them. Just the ones that ask for characteristics that don’t co-exist in normal human beings. Many years ago, I spoke at a conference and got a great question. (This was rare at the time.) It was from from a man who hired sales people. He wanted to know if he really […]

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Managing Love

There are five pillars of love. I’ve written about them before, although I didn’t call them that until I realized that these are universal and apply to every situation in life where you care for at least one other human being. Which, in my not-so-humble opinion includes the job of management. In brief, here they […]

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Onboarding: The First Seven Days

A lot has been written about the complexities of executive onboarding, generally giving a calendar of a few months duration to fully get with the program. Executives, one might infer from this, are hothouse flowers requiring judicious amounts of care and feeding lest they wilt before their time. Or worse. I don’t buy it. Really, […]

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